On this episode, the ladies and I get together for a telechat on marriage. We talk about:
- reasons people get married
- the divine purpose of marriage
- what God means by submission
- helping your husband to become a leader
- Giving your husband room to make mistakes
- and more…
I also give announcements on upcoming Book Club events. Tune in now!
Stephanie Franklin says:
There is so much to say about marriage. Where does one start? There’s so much depth to marriage. We must all first of all understand marriage is God’s guide to understanding how to be the Bride for Christ.Hmm you may be thinking, she’s a bit crazy. No, let me explain. Jesus is going to return to collect His bride. If we can’t treat our spouse with love, kindness, and respect, then how can we think that we will be the bride Jesus is deserving of? God chose us He loves us and treasures us. It was heart breaking to Him when Isreal divorced Him, it was so painful for Him to bear. Yet, He still loves Isreal and longs for her return. We are to treasure our spose the way God treasures us. We are to be the kind of friend and lover and companion the way Jesus is to us. When it comes to Biblical love, I suggest every couple read Song of Solomon together. God has worked and loved us through all of our sinful ways, yet He still waits on us and we should keep that kind of loving spirit toward our husbands. Never be afraid to love completely and freely, the way Christ loves us.
January 25th, 2008 at 1:50 am
Destiny says:
I think that the marriage is the greatest relationship there is. In recent times I have come to the understanding that couples who make it in marriage first need to marry their best friends. Then treat each other with patience and understanding. Ladies, never think you need to marry JUST ANYBODY because of family or society pressure. WAIT! there is a friend out there for you. One whose purpose and yours complement…
Destiny
Nigeria
January 25th, 2008 at 1:00 pm
Demetria says:
Stephanie,
I absolutely agree with you!
We have to develop loving attitudes toward our husbands…not always an easy feat, but it’s necessary and staying in God’s will. Also, it really helps when the husband is willing to love the wife as Christ loves the Church. (’m so grateful for my hubby!)
January 25th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
huldah pallapati says:
Husband is a God’s gift, as a wife we must have a power of prayering means laying down all claim to power in and of yourself, and relying on God’s power to transfer you, your husband, your circumstances and your marriage.This power is not given to wield like a weapon in order to beat back an unruly beast. It’s a gentle tool of restoration apporiated through the prayers of a wife who longs to do right, and to give life more than get even. It’s a way to Invite God’s power into your husband’s life for his greatest blessing, which is ultimately yours,too.
January 25th, 2008 at 7:00 pm
Demetria says:
AMEN, Sister Huldah!
January 25th, 2008 at 7:16 pm
Demetria says:
Destiny, what a wonderful bit of encouragement. I also love to tell younger married-hopefuls to WAIT. Wait upon God for the right one…
January 25th, 2008 at 7:17 pm
Mandy says:
Marriage is a tool for the glory of God to be revealed to the world. If we would truly sacrifice ourselves in order to build up our husbands, if we would be an encourager in the home, and help him to build a name the gates instead of trying to build ourselves up. If we would allow the men to serve in the God ordained positions of men to be providers of food and clothing and martial rights, instead of trying to take control and things in our own hands. If we would be a servant to our family and all, and not tack on expectations or demands on relationships, the Love of God for us would be revealed for all to see. It is definitely no easy feat, but we are trekking on the battle field against the kingdom of darkness. Let us be Holy (set apart) for the purposes of the Kingdom of God and wage war against our adversary starting within us and in our homes.
January 30th, 2008 at 10:51 pm
Mandy says:
In some countries arranged marriages are still practiced. I believe parental participation is such an important and valuable tool that is often taken for granted. Our parents know us the best. They have seen our characters. If parents would consider suitable partners for their children, and see a compatibility, I believe that God can use that relationship to grow. It is a covenant relationship. Once we have an agreement to remain faithful and vow to be with our husband, it is our duty to choose to nurture and protect our marriage. Even when we don’t feel like loving, we choose to love. It is a choice, we are to be faithful, regardless of situation or feelings. There are only two reasons why divorce is permitted in the Scriptures. Yet even in those situations, some choose to stay with their partners and bear with them. As a wife, it is my desire to complement my husband and strengthen him in his weaknesses. Let us build our families in wisdom and in truth. Let us be careful of our speech, and allow the Lord to work and transform our hearts. Let no bitterness or evil be in us, but that we may be cleansed by the blood of the Lamb, Jesus. May you grow to be pleased with the husbands you have and may they be pleased with us, enjoying to be at our side and leading our family.
January 30th, 2008 at 11:03 pm
Mandy says:
Also, I like to encourage young girls in marriage. If they are having lustful thoughts and feelings, the flesh is weak. By the grace of God the flesh can be conquered if we submit, but if it seems too much, then marriage is a great opportunity for them to not fall into sin or youthful lusts, but to submit themselves to one man, their husband. It is not I’ve satisfied my lusts, now let me move on, but rather a commitment that is made. A vow before the Lord. Many of us do not just walk into our relationship with the Lord and say I’m going to do this this and this, though I never did this before, He has commanded me to do this so I’m going to give all these things up, and that is it. It is a process. We are working out our salvation. Slowly the foreskin of our hearts is being rolled back and cut off as it speaks in Deuteronomy. I believe God is in control. And if we will first seek Him in all things, there is nothing to worry about. Whether it is in regard to marriage or a seemingly small thing, if we go before the Lord and seek His guidance in prayer and perhaps laying down a fleece as Gideon, we can be sure we are moving forward and advancing the kingdom of Heaven, and not be doubtful or double-minded about decisions. We can be confident and assured that God will use it for good, as those who is called according to His purpose. He will be glorified!
January 30th, 2008 at 11:33 pm
Linda says:
My husband and I were married when we were in High School. Our daughter was born during our Senior year. We were not Christians at the time. Many on our wedding day said we wouldn’t last because of our age. We celebrated our 30th Anniversary in August of 2007. After trying to grow up and be a husband and wife on our own (we were failing miserably)my path crossed with a wonder ful Christian couple who shared Jesus with us. It was the beginning of a new marriage for us. We no longer thought of ourselves and what we missed but what God had ahead in our future for our family. We gave up our ways and began to search the scriptures for the true God serving marriage. You see my husband received the call to become a minister after walking in the Lord for 5 years and now it has been a total 25 years of truly having a Godly marriage. His counsel to couple desiring to be married is your life is a triangle and the Lord is at the top point of that marriage. If you leave God out your marriage will always be incomplete. We went through many trials all of which brought us to the Lord. We wouldn’t change anything but our prayer has always been for others to learn from us and endure through their trials in marriage to then be able to serve the Lord with all their heart, mind and souls. To God be the Glory in each marriage!!
February 2nd, 2008 at 9:08 pm